Mrs. Brinker on school discipline problems

Student discipline issues are typically the result of one of four triggers.

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THEN WE START TO DRY OUT AND
WARM UP BY THE END OF THE WEEK
WITH FAMILY SPENDING MORE TIME
TOGETHER THAN EVER BEFORE.
THINGS CAN GET TENSE, RIGHT?
LOT OF FAMILY TOGETHERNESS.
KIDS CAN MISBEHAVE. WE CAN
MISBEHAVE. OUR EDUCATION EXPERT
JENNIFER BRINKER IS THE
ASSISTANT PRINCIPAL AT
GREENWOOD MIDDLE SCHOOL. SHE
DEALS WITH DISCIPLINE AND
EARLIER THIS WEEK I TALKED WITH
HER ABOUT HOW TO MAKE SURE WE
AREN'T PART OF THE PROBLEM. I
ASKED HER IF SHE HAD SOME SORT
OF MAGIC FIX THAT I HAD SOME
GREAT FIX FOR IT. AND IT'S A
VERY COMPLEX ISSUE. BUT I THINK
I'D LIKE TO LOOK AT CHRONIC
MISBEHAVIOR IF YOU'RE SEEING
THE SAME UNDESIRED BEHAVIORS
AGAIN AND AGAIN OUT OF YOUR
CHILD AND YOU HAVE TO
REEVALUATE WHAT YOU'RE DOING
BECAUSE SOMETHING IS NOT
WORKING. SO WHERE DO WE START?
SO ONCE YOU'VE ACTUALLY
DETERMINED WHAT THE PROBLEM
BEHAVIOR IS, YOU NEED TO FIGURE
OUT THE FUNCTION OR THE WHY ARE
THEY DOING THIS THAN THIS
BEHAVIOR. AND I LIKE TO USE THE
ACRONYM SEAT BECAUSE
MISBEHAVIORS TEND TO HAPPEN FOR
ONE OF THESE FOR REASONS OR
FUNCTIONS SENSORY MAYBE THEY'RE
EXTREMELY TIRED OR
OVERSTIMULATED ESCAPE. SO
THEY'RE TRYING TO GET OUT OF
SOMETHING THAT THEY DON'T WANT
TO DO. ATTENTION SEEKING
BEHAVIORS AND TANGIBLE
SOMETHING THAT THE CHILD WANTS
TO HAVE NORMALLY. THAT'S THE
STARTING POINT IS FINDING OUT
THE WHY AND SO HOW DO WE
DETERMINE WHICH ONE OF THOSE?
WELL, TAKE THEM MISBEHAVIOR OF
WHINING OR TANTRUMS. THAT COULD
FIT INTO ANY OF FOUR
CATEGORIES. SO WHAT YOU HAVE TO
DO IS LOOK AT WHAT HAPPENED
RIGHT BEFORE THE MISBEHAVIOR
STARTED. SO THEIR TANTRUMS AND
WHINING BECAUSE YOU'RE HAVING
THEM DO SCHOOLWORK THAT'S
ESCAPE. THEY'RE TRYING TO GET
OUT OF IT. IF IT'S THAT YOU'VE
BEEN ON YOUR COMPUTER ALL DAY
DOING WORK AT HOME AND THEY'RE
TRYING GET YOUR ATTENTION
ATTENTION WOULD BE THE FUNCTION
OR THE REASON OF THAT
MISBEHAVIOR. SO WHAT YOU'VE
IDENTIFIED WHAT THAT IS WHAT DO
YOU DO NEXT? WELL, IT'S REALLY
IMPORTANT. HAVE TO LOOK AT YOUR
REACTION WHEN THE MISBEHAVIOR
HAPPENED. SO SAY THAT IT'S
ATTENTION BECAUSE THEY WANT
YOUR ATTENTION AND YOU LAUNCH
INTO A 10 MINUTE TIRADE ABOUT
HOW DISRESPECTFUL THEY'RE BEING
AND YOU START YELLING AT THEM.
GUESS WHAT YOU JUST SAID THAT
MISBEHAVIOR BY GIVING THEM THAT
ATTENTION SO NOT TO MAKE SURE
THAT YOU'RE NOT FEEDING THE BAD
BEHAVIOR. YES. SO THEN WHAT YOU
DO THOUGH? WHAT DO YOU DO
INSTEAD? WELL, YOU HAVE TO FIND
A WAY TO TEACH THEM HOW TO
APPROPRIATELY ASK FOR WHAT IT
IS THEY WANT. BEHAVIOR IS
COMMUNICATION. SO WHEN A BABY
CRIES WE GO THROUGH YOU KNOW,
MAKE SURE THEY'RE NOT HUNGRY.
MAKE SURE THEY NEED TO BE
CHANGED. OLDER KIDS WE DON'T
THINK OF IT THAT WAY BUT WE
HAVE TO REPROGRAM OUR BRAINS TO
REALIZE THEY'RE COMMUNICATING A
NEED TO YOU. SO YOU HAVE TO
TEACH THEM HOW TO GET WHAT THEY
WANT IN AN APPROPRIATE WAY. AND
THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PART
WHEN YOU ASK FOR THAT IN AN
APPROPRIATE WAY. YOU HAVE TO
TRY AND GIVE IT TO THEM IF YOU
CAN. WHAT IF THIS IS CONSTANT?
IT'S JUST A CONSTANT PROBLEM.
IT'S THE SAME MISBEHAVIOR OVER
AND OVER AGAIN. THAT'S WHEN WE
REALLY AS PARENTS HAVE TO STOP
AND LOOK AT WHAT WE ARE DOING
RIGHT NOW BECAUSE THAT IS NOT
WORKING. SO YOU HAVE TO
REEXAMINE AND AGAIN THEY'RE
TRYING TO COMMUNICATE SOMETHING
TO YOU. WE JUST NEED TO TAKE
THE TIME TO LISTEN AND EXAMINE
TO MAKE SURE OUR REACTION ISN'T

Transcript

THEN WE START TO DRY OUT AND WARM UP BY THE END OF THE WEEK WITH FAMILY SPENDING MORE TIME TOGETHER THAN EVER BEFORE.
THINGS CAN GET TENSE, RIGHT? LOT OF FAMILY TOGETHERNESS.
KIDS CAN MISBEHAVE. WE CAN MISBEHAVE. OUR EDUCATION EXPERT JENNIFER BRINKER IS THE ASSISTANT PRINCIPAL AT GREENWOOD MIDDLE SCHOOL. SHE DEALS WITH DISCIPLINE AND EARLIER THIS WEEK I TALKED WITH HER ABOUT HOW TO MAKE SURE WE AREN'T PART OF THE PROBLEM. I ASKED HER IF SHE HAD SOME SORT OF MAGIC FIX THAT I HAD SOME GREAT FIX FOR IT. AND IT'S A VERY COMPLEX ISSUE. BUT I THINK I'D LIKE TO LOOK AT CHRONIC MISBEHAVIOR IF YOU'RE SEEING THE SAME UNDESIRED BEHAVIORS AGAIN AND AGAIN OUT OF YOUR CHILD AND YOU HAVE TO REEVALUATE WHAT YOU'RE DOING BECAUSE SOMETHING IS NOT WORKING. SO WHERE DO WE START? SO ONCE YOU'VE ACTUALLY DETERMINED WHAT THE PROBLEM BEHAVIOR IS, YOU NEED TO FIGURE OUT THE FUNCTION OR THE WHY ARE THEY DOING THIS THAN THIS BEHAVIOR. AND I LIKE TO USE THE ACRONYM SEAT BECAUSE MISBEHAVIORS TEND TO HAPPEN FOR ONE OF THESE FOR REASONS OR FUNCTIONS SENSORY MAYBE THEY'RE EXTREMELY TIRED OR OVERSTIMULATED ESCAPE. SO THEY'RE TRYING TO GET OUT OF SOMETHING THAT THEY DON'T WANT TO DO. ATTENTION SEEKING BEHAVIORS AND TANGIBLE SOMETHING THAT THE CHILD WANTS TO HAVE NORMALLY. THAT'S THE STARTING POINT IS FINDING OUT THE WHY AND SO HOW DO WE DETERMINE WHICH ONE OF THOSE? WELL, TAKE THEM MISBEHAVIOR OF WHINING OR TANTRUMS. THAT COULD FIT INTO ANY OF FOUR CATEGORIES. SO WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO IS LOOK AT WHAT HAPPENED RIGHT BEFORE THE MISBEHAVIOR STARTED. SO THEIR TANTRUMS AND WHINING BECAUSE YOU'RE HAVING THEM DO SCHOOLWORK THAT'S ESCAPE. THEY'RE TRYING TO GET OUT OF IT. IF IT'S THAT YOU'VE BEEN ON YOUR COMPUTER ALL DAY DOING WORK AT HOME AND THEY'RE TRYING GET YOUR ATTENTION ATTENTION WOULD BE THE FUNCTION OR THE REASON OF THAT MISBEHAVIOR. SO WHAT YOU'VE IDENTIFIED WHAT THAT IS WHAT DO YOU DO NEXT? WELL, IT'S REALLY IMPORTANT. HAVE TO LOOK AT YOUR REACTION WHEN THE MISBEHAVIOR HAPPENED. SO SAY THAT IT'S ATTENTION BECAUSE THEY WANT YOUR ATTENTION AND YOU LAUNCH INTO A 10 MINUTE TIRADE ABOUT HOW DISRESPECTFUL THEY'RE BEING AND YOU START YELLING AT THEM.
GUESS WHAT YOU JUST SAID THAT MISBEHAVIOR BY GIVING THEM THAT ATTENTION SO NOT TO MAKE SURE THAT YOU'RE NOT FEEDING THE BAD BEHAVIOR. YES. SO THEN WHAT YOU DO THOUGH? WHAT DO YOU DO INSTEAD? WELL, YOU HAVE TO FIND A WAY TO TEACH THEM HOW TO APPROPRIATELY ASK FOR WHAT IT IS THEY WANT. BEHAVIOR IS COMMUNICATION. SO WHEN A BABY CRIES WE GO THROUGH YOU KNOW, MAKE SURE THEY'RE NOT HUNGRY.
MAKE SURE THEY NEED TO BE CHANGED. OLDER KIDS WE DON'T THINK OF IT THAT WAY BUT WE HAVE TO REPROGRAM OUR BRAINS TO REALIZE THEY'RE COMMUNICATING A NEED TO YOU. SO YOU HAVE TO TEACH THEM HOW TO GET WHAT THEY WANT IN AN APPROPRIATE WAY. AND THIS IS THE MOST IMPORTANT PART WHEN YOU ASK FOR THAT IN AN APPROPRIATE WAY. YOU HAVE TO TRY AND GIVE IT TO THEM IF YOU CAN. WHAT IF THIS IS CONSTANT? IT'S JUST A CONSTANT PROBLEM.
IT'S THE SAME MISBEHAVIOR OVER AND OVER AGAIN. THAT'S WHEN WE REALLY AS PARENTS HAVE TO STOP AND LOOK AT WHAT WE ARE DOING RIGHT NOW BECAUSE THAT IS NOT WORKING. SO YOU HAVE TO REEXAMINE AND AGAIN THEY'RE TRYING TO COMMUNICATE SOMETHING TO YOU. WE JUST NEED TO TAKE THE TIME TO LISTEN AND EXAMINE TO MAKE SURE OUR REACTION ISN'T